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You berate yourself for disclosing your fascination with sea urchins, for ordering noodle soup and making slurping noises, or for joking about how you got the scar on your middle finger.All this self-punishment makes you feel utterly miserable and you wonder when you became so weak, needy, or desperate.When you do find success, you realize that it came the way most things in life happen — organically, through people you know.Matched with destiny, your future trips happily towards the light.It’s not romantic, but to a certain degree, the search for a suitable partner is not unlike the job hunt.You use the internet to varying degrees of success, clicking and writing emails and then clicking some more, and sometimes, if the cards are in your favor and the stars align, you end up meeting a stranger in a public setting and make awkward small talk while wearing shoes that pinch your toes and more makeup than you would for a Tuesday.Although it’s natural to feel self-critical after a rejection, there is little point in ‘going there’.Most rejections have much more to do with compatibility and chemistry than they do with any specific shortcoming or flaw.
“We met on Tinder, and now we’re in a happy relationship!So don’t skip that crucial step and do it in your head — write. One of the theories about why rejection causes such sharp emotional pain is that in our distant past, being ostracized from our tribe was pretty much a death sentence.Consequently, we developed a mechanism to warn us of when we were at danger for being ousted from our tribe and as a result, we became exquisitely sensitive to rejection.Therefore, there is utterly no point in trying to blame yourself or any perceived flaw you might have.
Unless the person looked you in the eye and said something specific such as, “Sorry, I’m just not into dimples,” chalk it up to insufficient chemistry.When it’s over, you’re euphoric or despondent, alternating between mapping out a future for yourself or envisioning waiting for an email that never arrives.