How to do relative dating
"I think that when men date younger women, it makes them feel a lot younger.But for women, being with somebody younger makes us feel older. I don't feel older all the time, just when I look in the mirror.Over and over again, I've interviewed people who kept lists of qualities they were looking for in a spouse—a Wall Street banker, a vegetarian, a skier, a poet, someone who recycles, someone who drives a Porsche, someone under 30—and then fell in love with a completely different type of person, someone much younger or older, say, than they pictured. When I was 25, I spent ten days in Rome doing things I had never done: staying in hotels that cost more than a night, eating pasta that wasn't Stouffer's. He wasn't a father figure—he was a grandfather figure.
He's similar to her—an artistic person who likes to play guitar for hours, who prefers quiet evenings and going to bed early over rowdy parties.
"I knew he didn't want kids, and he knew I didn't want any more," she says.
"If he had told me he wanted them, I would never have dated him." For Carolanne Mc Kirnan, 50, and Duncan Burke, 33, who live together in Boulder, Colorado, the question of children is still unanswered.
"I'm not interested in having more kids," says Carolanne, who has a 20-year-old son and a teenage daughter.
"If Duncan decides children are an absolute necessity, he has to make a decision.When we're hiking, his knees are worse than mine." Since falling in love with Mike, she has needed to redefine beauty. ' Your answer could be, 'I'm going to get a facelift.' My answer is, 'I'm going to be such a beautiful person inside that it's going to shine through to the outside,'" she says.