Dating and forums
This forum is for discussions on various topics and interests.The Forum also contains Dating Advice that every person may follow while dating - both online and offline.My first date with my boyfriend, he paid for lunch out. The second time we just went downtown and walked around all night, for hours, talking.We did eventually get hungry and stop and eat somewhere. (I'm not one of those people who think the man has to pay for everything, that's not very fair.) By then, I liked him, he liked me, we had hit it off, and he didn't have to spend money to impress me, that's not what I look for.I just have this question: Why do you want to be with someone that just expects you to flash the cash all the time? if after a few dates they are still expecting that kind of behavior, and ERE is one of your important life goals, you are probably not compatible. my husband repeatedly called me cheap and refused to let me "control" his money... While I'm neither single, nor a lady, I can say that when I was dating I found many frugal but fun date ideas.At the time the frugality of them was actually a secondary or tertiary concern, and the primary reason for them was because I didn't like the traditional dating activities (dinner and a movie, going to a bar, etc.) and wanted to find something that I enjoy.Discuss topics related to dating, relationships, love, and meet other fun and exciting singles.It's a great way to meet new people, form friendships, and just have fun!
Question for you guys though: Where/how are you seeking out your ERE-minded mate?For example, if you both enjoy hiking suggest going for a walk together, but maybe don't pick a 20 mile climb way out of the city for the first date - just a couple mile nature walk close to amenities will be good for an introduction, and if things go well you can extend it from there.-Don't be upset when you don't hear back from people.Although two people may seem compatible on paper, not everyone clicks.
I would say if you write your messages well, you can expect a reply from maybe one in five sent.
I'm not advocating going out and dating women that you find to be physically repulsive, but you might want to consider whether or not you are (consciously or unconsciously) limiting your pool of potential mates by ignoring anyone who isn't your physical "type".