Dating a guy with low self confidence
Slightly troubled by his bizarre dating habits I asked different men I trusted what they thought about the serial dating but passing over more logical dating choices. They insist he has problems, but finally I bit the bullet and asked him out - and he turned me down! I just would like to make more sense of his behavior. First of all, he typically dates easy women who are socially beneath him - yet these women dump him after two or three dates.
Here are my questions: did he do me a favor (I know he respects me and likes me)? Second, he said he seldom dates women from work because he says he doesn't think he is good enough.
During one of our outings he revealed that he was not bold enough to be with a woman that is good for him because he thinks he isn't good enough.(?
)Needless to say I've been on the case for a while.
I have been interested in this guy going on 4 years - when we first met I was with someone but the chemistry between us was pretty obvious - it was even to the guy I was with.
clearly blanket statements like that indicate low self esteem on his part. You asked if he did you a favor by him turning you down for a date, and my answer is yes - he probably did do you a favor by turning you down ... so at least this way, you still have the friendship, right?For example, they may be too afraid of being alone and/or they’re worried about what others might think if they end their relationship.However, if you’re obsessed with the opinions of others and fear being viewed as a failure, you’re actually failing your partner and yourself by staying in a relationship for all the wrong reasons. Fortunately, if you’re struggling with low self-esteem, there are steps you can take right now that’ll not only benefit the relationship that you have with your partner, but the one that you have with yourself as well.Specifically, when you think that your relationship is going to fail, you’re actually laying the foundation for this outcome to occur. In fact, because of a lack of confidence, you may find yourself wanting to spend every waking moment with your partner because you’re constantly worrying that he or she’s going to break up with you.
However, if you turn into a person who acts in a clingy way, the irony is that this behavior will actually push your partner farther away.5. Additionally, having low self-esteem can impact your relationship with your partner by causing you to consistently seek reassurance from him or her.For instance, because of your insecurities, you may find yourself constantly asking your partner if he or she is still interested in you and/or if you’re actually lovable.