Boundaries dating christian book
Setting personal boundaries is vital part of healthy relationships - which are not possible without communication.
Emotions do not define us, they are a form of internal communication that help us to understand ourselves.I started the series in the first two articles focusing more on emotional honesty and responsibility - and learning to have internal boundaries with ourselves in terms of seeing the process of life more realistically (what we need to accept, and what we can change) - and starting to take responsibility for our behaviors and emotions.The reason I started there, is because changing our relationship with ourselves and life is vital in order to make any long term changes in our relationships with others.The little child within us does not feel worthy, feels defective and shameful, and is terrified of setting boundaries for fear everyone will leave.
The other extreme of this phenomena is those of us who throw up huge walls to try to keep people from getting too close - and sabotage any relationship that starts getting too intimate - to try to protect the wounded child within from being hurt.They are a vital part of our being - as a component of the whole.) This is owning the feeling. By stating the feeling out loud we are affirming that we have a right to feelings.