Being single and not dating
I was the one who would get drunk, go home with the guy she met at the bar and then divert them the next morning with all the details.
I was also the one who would have horrible dating disasters, fall for someone too quickly, get dumped or ghosted and make them all feel better about pairing off.
This was the version of myself I had committed to, and the version my friends had grown accustomed to.
Among my Noah’s Ark of coupled-up friends, I was the light entertainment.
OMFG I'm TAKEN by OMG the BEEESSTT guy EVVVEERRR!!
A few months ago, a reporter asked me if I kept a list of scientifically-documented ways in which it is better to be single than married. I have been so busy being defensive—arguing again and again that no, getting married will not make you happier and it will not make you healthier and it will not make you live longer and it will not doom your kids and it will not make your social networks blossom—that it rarely occurred to me that I should be systematically making the more pro-active case.
True experiments are impossible, since people can’t be randomly assigned to get married or stay single, but longitudinal studies, in which the same people are followed over time, are better than the studies comparing people at just one point in time.] Single People are Healthier #1 People who have always been single exercise more than married people do.and all the single ladies go wild and (obediently) put their hands up? Up till him, I had been the resolutely single girl friend, the one with all the flings, the one night stands and the all-nighters.