Advice dating need paraplegic woman


06-Jan-2020 20:54

Dyserflexia is when the nerves race up and down your spinal cord in attempt to communicate to your brain that an issue needs attention (could be bladder, bowel, even an ingrown toe nail).Since the message can't make it past the level of injury and to the brain, it gets sent back down the spinal cord, only to get sent back up, and then down again, until eventually your blood pressure rises to dangerous levels.I can watch a needle go into my leg and not feel a thing, yet if you grabbed my leg and squeezed, the change of blood flow would let me know which leg you touched.There are spots on the bottom of my feet that I can feel fairly well, and yet, I’ve watched my toe nail rip off, blood spurting everywhere, and stared in horror as I didn’t feel anything at all.With that being said, having Dyserflexia is also an amazing thing because it’s how your body tells you that something's wrong, even when it’s not supposed to be able to do so. Sometimes the emotions are directly related to wheelchair stuff, but most of the time they're not - they're the result of living the daily grind.All people - abled-body and otherwise - can relate to this.There’s burning in my legs and lots of other sensations, but none that I could really describe right now.”Since that moment, I’ve spent a fair bit of time thinking about what being paralyzed feels like.And I’m going to try to spell it out for those that are curious. In the first few weeks of being in the hospital, I remember my legs burning profusely.

So all day I move and adjust - I probably come across antsy to those who aren't familiar - to make sure I'm not sitting in the same position too long.These are all involuntary movements and most SCIs take medicine to stop these movements because they can be painful. I take one muscle relaxer a day because my spasms aren't bad or bothersome, and I like to think that the movement, while jarring, is still some form of exercise.Other people have to be heavily medicated (and nearly sedated) to prevent them from being thrown out of their own wheelchair by their own non-cooperative body. In my 15 years of being paralyzed, I’ve had one pressure sore that was on my bum that was about the size of your fingernail.Some days are more annoying than others, and it feels like an itch you can’t scratch.

Think of the first few seconds when you move your arm or leg after it’s fallen asleep - it’s that feeling, magnified times infinity. As an able-bodied person I was weight conscious but never did I feel as heavy as I do now (and ironically I’m forty pounds lighter than I was pre-injury, weighing in at a whopping 105 pounds). In my case, I have perfect sensation to about my nipples and then it gets a little tricky: The outsides of my arms and hands have imperfect sensation.

It’s incredibly painful and causes complete desperation.